Cape May Officiant Rev. Donna Eleby



 Where will you officiate weddings?

Anywhere within the state of New Jersey. Weddings in the Cape May County area are however less expensive since I actually live here year round and travel time, gas, and tolls are not a factor in my pricing.

How do I apply for a marriage license? 

  1. The marriage license application is to be made in the New Jersey municipality in which either party resides and the license is valid throughout the State of New Jersey.
  2. If neither applicant is a New Jersey resident, submit the application in the municipality where the marriage ceremony will be performed, the license is only valid in the issuing municipality.
  3. You will need one Adult witness who knows both of you, to be present at the time of application. You will be asked the date, time, and location, and the name, address, and phone number of the officiant.
  4. The fee charged by the State of Nj is $28 for the license.
  5. You may pick up your license after 72 hour waiting period and it must be used within 30 days or it will be expired.
  6. You must turn the license over to the officiant prior to the ceremony for review. I am not able to marry you without it.
  7. You are required to have 2 adult witnesses for your marriage to be legal. If you do not have 2 witnesses I may be able to obtain them for you with notice.


 What type of service do you perform?

Whatever ceremony would best meet your needs and situation from Civil to Interfaith and even Handfastings. Together we can decide the perfect service for you. All paths are equal and accepted.

How do we hire you?

Contact me at or through the form on the contact page or the Rate Quote page or you can even call me at (609)972-7595 or text me. If you call me and leave a voicemail be sure your message is clear so I can call you back. I require a deposit of  $50 to hold the date. I accept a personal check, money order , or cash. The balance is due the day of the wedding with the exception of personal check which must be paid 2 weeks prior to the wedding. Many people prefer to pay sooner to avoid the hassle on their wedding day. I don't  have a problem with payment in full prior to the event or given at rehearsal if you'd like.

Will you attend the rehearsal/should we have a rehearsal? 

The rehearsal is a very important part of your experience.  It normally will make you and your wedding participants more comfortable on your wedding day.  But that decision is up to you and should be made when booking my services. If you have a rehearsal I will do everything in my power to attend.  (There is an additional charge for my attendance.) I will take the role that is needed as each couples needs are different from merely being aware of what is going on to coordinating the processional/recessional at the rehearsal.

What do I need the day of the ceremony?

You need the marriage license, two witnesses, rings(if you are exchanging rings), and yourselves. Depending on what type of ceremony you have chosen you may need candles, sand, roses, a table, etc. Any of these items can be provided for an additional fee. 

What happens after the ceremony?

I will be available for a picture or two if your photographer did not get the perfect photo of your ceremony. I have been known to take pictures of the couple after the ceremony if need be. I will assist your witnesses in the paperwork for accuracy. I will then mail your license to the township clerk where you got married within the necessary 5 days and my copy will always be kept on file if needed. You obtain your Marriage Certificate from the municipality after the processing period.

How far in advance should I book you?

Many couples book a year or 2 in advance. Often I have requests for the same date and similar times which is why the non-refundable deposit is so important.It is for your protection as well as mine. If you tell me you are sending a deposit I will hold that date for that week while I await the mail arrival. I will let you know when I receive it. If you forget to mail it please let me know you did so I know when to expect it and to hold that date for you.

Are last minute requests okay?

Yes, as long as I have availability I will take last minute requests. I have sample ceremonies ready for quick and easy decisions as well.

Does our religious status matter?

No, I believe all paths lead to the same destination. Your ceremony should reflect you as a couple whether that is routed in religious or love symbolism is entirely up to you. I, myself, do not force my beliefs on others. I am a Spiritual person who believes this is a personal decision and the wording you choose in your ceremony should reflect meaningful vows to each person entering into the marriage covenant.

Can we write our own vows?

Of course, you can select from the many samples I send you or completely write your own from scratch. Again, it is not about me so I will not get offended if you do not choose a sample I send you. Let the ceremony speak to you as a couple.

What rentals do you offer?

 I have bamboo equipment to build Arbors/arches on site. This can be accomplished with a couple able bodies from your wedding party and I will assist the best I can. I can not do it alone and someone must be there in enough time for setup. Table, sand ceremony kits, and signs I gladly offer. Chair rentals for small weddings of up to 30 can be easily accommodated. Additional decorations and accents can be added to your specifications...just ask.

 How do I book rentals?

The total of the rentals of arbor, arch, or chairs requested require a 50% non-refundable deposit. For your convenience you can include this with your deposit for your ceremony.  Other smaller rentals do not require a deposit.